Adminitrative Details (or Bitches Get Stuff Done)

Seems I just can't help but do a post like this every once in a while, if for no other reason than to get my head on straight and voice my priorities to myself. So, here I go, rummaging through my mind, trying to put things in neat order for the journey forward. I'm thinking about...

The Past
When I started this blog, I intended it to be more along the lines of memoir than a journal of the present. While I'm enjoying where it's ended up, I'm feeling moved to do more reflection and storytelling. I think next week I am going to try to start a series of posts about the time leading up to my discovery of my husband's addiction. Maybe it will finally (five years later) help get me past Step 1b (admitting my life had become unmanageable). If nothing else, it will reaffirm Step 1a (admitting powerlessness over my husband's addiction).

Responding to Comments
I have heard it's good form to respond (or try to respond) to every comment. I don't. I don't make any attempt to. I respond more often to those of you who have e-mail addresses associated with your comments, and I have built some really wonderful relationships that way. If there is no e-mail address, I generally respond in the comment section of my blog only if I feel my response would be of general interest. I do read and appreciate all of your comments, but it takes me (perfectionist that I am) quite a long time to write even a one line response, and I don't feel (given that many/most of the responses in the comment section will never be read) that responding to everyone is the best use of my limited blogging time.

Moderating Comments
I read somewhere that one should post a comment policy, so this is mine:

I moderate all of my comments primarily because it ensures that I read them all. I rarely reject any comments, but I have (and will) if comments are:

• Spammy and off-topic. (e.g. "You may enjoy this money making site" on a post about autism.) These have come strictly from people I don't know, so don't any of you regulars fret your little heads over it.
  
• Intended to hurt or mock another commenter or reader, or could be perceived this way. I think I've only done this once or twice.

However, in addition to posting sweet comments about how much you all love each other and me, I have posted and will post comments that:

• Disagree with me. (Including pro-Obama comments!) ;)
  
• Disagree (in a well-intentioned way) with other readers or commenters.
• Are hurtful to me or others in my life (although I'd probably reject comments that might be hurtful to my kids).
  

Awards and Memes
I have a backlog of awards to acknowledge. I am going to try to plow through them this weekend, because I do appreciate you all thinking of me and I feel terribly rude and remiss in not accepting those good thoughts in a timely and gracious manner. However, (drat, I don't know how to say this without seeming rude and ungrateful, but so be it) I will not be accepting any more in the future. It takes quite a bit of time to create the acceptance posts and I find I would really rather spend that time writing.

However, I do still like being tagged for memes, as long as they are not anything that would compromise my anonymity. (I saw a very cute one with photos recently, where one could google things like one's name or home town, but I didn't want to blow my anonymity out of the water with that.) I tend to save memes for days when I'm having a hard time thinking of something to write about, so I don't always post them in a timely fashion.

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In case you missed the "bitches get stuff done" reference because you didn't watch the video at the end of my earlier post:

I can't get enough of that video!